Raising 3 boys is such a roller coaster ride; it has so many ups and downs at rapid, random moments, sometimes I find myself out of breath just trying to keep our home in order! As they grow older, I have been put in situations where I was completely clueless as to how to handle their attitudes, giving out punishments when I wasn’t convinced but knew I needed to hold my ground.
A good friend recommended Raising Boys by Steve Biddulph, where he explains the different stages in a boys life and how to deal with them. I think I finished that book in 3 days, the information was unbelievably correct I actually found myself gasping many times as I felt he was explaining each one of my kids. The book shed so much light to how boys handle situations and how as a parent you can step in to correct a behavior without “killing” your sons personality.
Furthermore, the book deals with education issues boys face in terms of development and interests, and now I am glad I made the decision to put my kids in a gender segregated school. Not only do boys grades improve in an all boys school, their behavior is much milder when they are not trying to impress girls or try to be cool.
The concept I liked most is the need for boys to have a mentor in their life at a certain age to learn how to become a man, it made so much sense to me and so I immediately went on a quest to find a mentor both my husband and I like, to spend time with our eldest son. We also learned how to handle his frustrations better, which was a major issue I had trouble with.
I recommend this book not only to parents, but to teachers, coaches, and literally anyone dealing with boys or caring for them. Just by understanding what a boy is going through emotionally and developmentally throughout his life has made my job easier as a mother.